Areas of Specialty

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Anger Management

Isn't it amazing how often people who are easily angered and totally  unaware of it? Maybe they don't even realize that they are showing  anger.

Some of our tolerance level for stress and frustration comes from  genetics; some from family modeling, some from too many stressors  happening at the same time; and some from not learning how to control  our impulses. Other major causes are physical, verbal or sexual abuse,  either in the past or ongoing now, which we have not resolved; unfair  treatment in the workplace; adverse effects from medication; or from  alcohol and/or drug problems. Even too much or too little caffeine can  cause it. Hyperactivity, impatience, and inability to concentrate well  and insomnia or hypersomnia can cause it.

Toss a little alcohol or drugs into an already angry person and the  circuits can blow. Rationality and problem-solving disappear and fully  blown rage erupts. This is often the situation, the braking system  fails, and the person becomes like a fast-moving vehicle with no brakes.  They attack verbally and cruelly and possibly also physically. Hitting  walls or breaking objects are often forerunners of a physical attack. So  get out of the situation if this begins to happen. People's spirits and  often their bodies are scarred by someone's explosive outbursts and in  our current world, people are quickly shot in a fit of anger. Lives are  lost and hopes for the future as well. The angry one is often quickly  remorseful once they've hurtled out of control, but not always.  Remorseful or not, sometimes the damage caused cannot be undone.  Physical wounds often heal more quickly than the emotional ones.  Repetitive abuse, of either type, often calls for professional help for  us to get past being victimized and to move on with our lives in healthy  ways.

Chronic anger is very unhealthy. It puts too much stress on the body  and upon relationships. It's a learning process to catch your anger  before it goes out of control and damages someone or something. No  matter how limited your time is, your time with a therapist of your  choice or an anger management group can be the best time you will ever  spend. Friends, family and co-workers will be greatly appreciative.  You'll see and you will feel the difference it is making in your life  very quickly.

Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD)

A big mouthful, huh? Well it IS A BIG UGLY DEAL! And it's one we usually  need professional help to resolve. There are often flashbacks (images  of the incident triggered by current thoughts or experiences) which can  lead to depression, panic disorder, anxiety, paranoia and withdrawal or  aggression. 

Some examples of PTSD-creating incidents:
Anything traumatic which causes you shame = a toxic emotion indeed and must be dealt with during sessions and resolved. 

  • Being in an automobile, plane or train crash
  • Combat duty
  • Physical, sexual, verbal, emotional abuse at any stage of your life, but especially damaging in childhood and teen years.
  • Anxiety symptoms leading to phobias and panic attacks
  • Illness or death of a loved one
  • Abandonment
  • Being diagnosed with a severe, chronic or terminal illness
  • Earthquakes, tornadoes, natural disasters
  • Traumatic divorces, child custody battles
  • Workplace mistreatment or firing
  • Acute or chronic physical or mental illness

PTSD is one of my specialties. I use various methods to resolve it  depending upon the unique person and situation I am treating. Some  typical methods I have used successfully include: 

  •  Being in an automobile, plane or train crash
  • Combat duty
  • Physical, sexual, verbal, emotional abuse at any stage of your life, but especially damaging in childhood and teen years.
  • Anxiety symptoms leading to phobias and panic attacks
  • Illness or death of a loved one
  • Abandonment
  • Being diagnosed with a severe, chronic or terminal illness
  • Earthquakes, tornadoes, natural disasters
  • Traumatic divorces, child custody battles
  • Workplace mistreatment or firing
  • Acute or chronic physical or mental illness

PTSD is one of my specialties. I use various methods to resolve it  depending upon the unique person and situation I am treating. Some  typical methods I have used successfully include:

  • Genograms and family history-taking and discussions
  • EMDR=one of the best and most efficient methods
  • Journaling
  • Blind letters to the abuser/joint sessions with the abuser/phone  calls or letters to the abuser/legal action (requires hiring an  attorney)
  • Cognitive therapy and rational problem-solving
  • Family therapy
  • Psychotherapy
  • Exposure therapy and desensitization
  • Mind shifting, self-soothing, calming techniques, music, visualization
  • Prayer
  • Positive self talk
  • Exercise, nutrition and physical fitness
  • Confronting acute or chronic pain with your medical doctor for  treatments aside from pain killer prescriptions, physical therapy,  exercise, etc.
  • Developing healthy relationships with others recharges our emotional  batteries and can make our hearts sing and brighten our darkest days.

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Relaxation Therapy

This is often paired with guided imagery. There are many benefits to  learning how to relax well and quickly. It benefits you by lowering  blood pressure and heart rate. Tension in your muscles is decreased.  Each of these happenings improves not only your health but your general  sense of well-being, but also your concentration and memory.

Staying tense and "wired up" is a truly unhealthy state for the body.  Irritability often results and that can hamper your ability to interact  appropriately and positively with friends, co-workers and family  members. "It's a rather contagious condition."  The more time you spend  with tense people, the more likely you are to also become tense.

So learn how to relax. I can teach you to do it. It's a gift to  yourself and to your loved ones. Make it a priority. You're worth it and  so are they! Relaxed,calm people are nice to be around. Loving and  caring for a well-trained pet is truly calming.

Suicide Prevention

A field of therapy which is very daunting and challenging. It is not 100% foolproof, but certainly worth the effort.

Be sure to notice sudden onsets of sadness, lethargy, withdrawal,  crying, sleeplessness or over hypersleeping. Take any mention of  suicidal ideation or death wishes to heart and quickly get help for the  person.

Children and adolescents require and facilitate professional help  with a counselor/psychotherapist, psychiatrist or psychiatric facility  as soon as possible. When a person becomes severely depressed and unable  to pull out of it alone and its as if they are helplessly submerged  into quicksand and unable to rescue themselves then help needs to be  sought immediately.

With adults, you might not have control and ability to totally  prevent it, but offer, suggest and facilitate help and maintain close  contact until they get connected to a person skilled with major  depression counseling skills.   There's no shame in getting seriously  depressed.  It can happen to any of us. Untreated suicidal thoughts  however can destroy us.

Therapists are mandated to report to caring family members or others who can be instrumental in preventing a suicide.

Guided Imagery

I like to do guided imagery with soft, soothing background music or  nature sounds. It’s a great technique for mind-shifting from stressful  situations to just give yourself a well-deserved break. 10-15 minutes of  ‘flipping that switch in your brain’ and dwelling upon calming mental  images can soothe and refresh you.

Slipping into an imagined state of mind and situation becomes easier  with practice. It’s a type of day-dreaming which your allow yourself to  be guided into.

Just imagine for a moment warm sand, gentle breezes, rhythmic ocean  waves and a magnificent sunset. At the same time you will be either  sitting or lying in a very relaxed position. Pretty soon, keeping your  mind focused upon the images, your tension eases and a peacefulness  begins to nudge you into calmness - a very restful place for your  thoughts which then eases the tension in your body.

You cannot be highly anxious and calm at the same time. They are  antagonistic to each other and one will dominate. So relax and enjoy  your life and others can then enjoy being with you.

Try to imagine how much more pleasant a person could be if they had  just relaxed in this way versus the other optional behaviors of worried,  hurried, aggravated, angry, fearful, stressed, etc.

And best of all: IT'S REALLY FUN TO DO!